Are you discerning a vocation to the married life? Religious life? Priesthood? Diaconate? Single life? The ministers at the UCC and can help!
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As you continue to pray and discern how God is calling you to serve Him, here are some helpful points for you to keep in mind:
Have a DESIRE for it? Some people choose a way of life because they feel an obligation. They feel an obligation to marry or enter seminary or religious life. God gives us the desire. A vocation is not meant to mean “Bite the Bullet” until you get to heaven. Any way of life will have its challenging moments, but they should not be the basic movement of your affectivity. You should not feel, “I am only doing this because God wants me to,” but you should want this for yourself as well.
Have some ABILITY to accomplish the responsibilities of that state in life? You don’t have to be tops in your field or even perfect. If you constantly are under pressure and cannot meet the ordinary demands of that way of life, you should experience another lifestyle and see if that indicates a positive response.
See signs of personal GROWTH? If you are stagnant and are in a rut, centered only on your own needs, then it could be time for renewal or a new direction in your life. This is not to be confused with getting out of a commitment when things become ordinary or routine. Regular ordinary days can tell us something about ourselves as well as crises times. Growth means finding deeper commitment in your life’s choice and becoming more and more a reflection of your true self. Integrating personal needs and the responsibilities of your state in life, is a sign of growth.
Experience a CALL from God? This is the inner drawing that you know you haven’t given yourself.
Recognize the EVENTS of your life as fitting a pattern and pointing to a certain life’s choice? Do circumstances keep pointing you in a certain direction?
Have PEACE, although tension may exist around you?
Have STRUGGLES and DOUBTS? Anyone who is afraid to question might be seeking security, rather than a life’s choice that has uncertainties. Any way of life has unknown events, both good and bad. If you experience doubts, it doesn’t necessarily mean that you are in the wrong lifestyle. Rather, it could mean you fully understand the depth of commitment that life demands. Someone who buries his/her head in the sand will never know doubt, but will never know reality either.
Some FEAR? When Moses and Mary came close to God they were afraid. The angel said to Mary: “Be not afraid.” Letting God take over our life is frightening. When we are in control, we don’t fear as much. We think we can do it all. (So We Think!).
Have the feeling that it FITS? After all is said and done, many times we know something is right for us and we don’t have all the words to say it. That’s fine.
Now the Lord came and stood there, calling as before, “Samuel! Samuel!” And Samuel said, “Speak, for your servant is listening.”
1 Samuel 3:10